SOMEONE HAS DISCLOSED ABUSE TO ME
Responding to a disclosure
As a support person, whether you are a friend, family member, partner or colleague, you play an important role in helping the survivor heal from sexual violence. Your response and actions may impact on their ability to heal from the trauma. There is no set way to support everyone – remember that each individual will react differently to trauma and will need different kinds of support.
Information for Partners, Relatives, and Friends.
Information for Parents.
How you can help
Start By Believing
"I believe you."
"I'm sorry this happened."
"I am here for you."
Be Supportive
"You can tell me as much, or as little as you want."
"It’s not your fault."
"I’m glad you told me. I’m so proud of you."
Ask How You Can Help
"What can I do to support you?"
"I can stay with you tonight. Would that help?"
"Do you want me to go with you to the hospital or police station?"
Avoid Asking WHY Questions
Even with the best of intentions, “why” questions can sound accusatory and make survivors blame themselves.